Emo Love

Love between two emos can be extremely strong and powerful. This is because, guess what … they are very emotional! With emos, a great deal of time is spent looking inside in a world of imagination, deep thoughts, which tend to be related to very strong feelings. Emo love reminds me of a book called Upside Down Brilliance by Linda Silverman, she says that it is right-brained people who are introspective, musical, and highly emotional. They are blessed with the emotional capacity to be creative, empathize, and of course, love deeper than others! But these right-brained children are also more sensitive, and thus were more prone to be hurt or traumatized by peers or parents. Dating guru Sean Messenger agrees that such hurt children begin to turn inwards away from the world and explore what is inside.

Many grow up to spend a lot of time alone for such things as reading, philosophy, music,  and writing poems. During this time, they are in a unique and complex world that no one seems to really understand - even friends. And this is why it can be so powerful when two emos meet. It can feel like you were meant to be. Finally, you have someone to share all of these deep and wonderful emotions with, someone who can feel your deepest pains… someone who gets you. So live it up. Love like you’ve never loved before. Play, laugh, cry, and cherish your inner child together. You may experience some of the highest emotions of life as an emo who has found love. It is a blessing for someone to allow you to see such intimate sides of themselves, and this is what it means to be in love.

But beware! This is also why Emo partners can be especially sensitive to hurt from their partners. The inner child still sees itself as fragile and has finally found long awaited salvation from past hurt through romantic love. Now you guys are expected to take care of each other’s fragility. When the inner child is showing itself and entrusting itself to another person, it is vulnerable. The inner child’s highest joys and deepest pains from what is really personally inside will come to the forefront. Arguments over nothing may become everything. It can be shocking. But don't fall for it. The pain is not caused by you. You've just exposed it. Just be there for them like you would a crying child and own up to any mistakes you've made.
　

It can be very scary to have the person closest to you deliver you the greatest hurt. At its worst, tears will roll. Words will fly. And flaming locusts will descend from the netherworlds to end all that you know. You may be in for one emo-tional rollercoaster! This is what happens when expectations to be each other’s saviors from pain are not met. But as John Legend says, we are just ordinary people. We can’t be perfect lovers. So if you keep all this in mind, you will be prepared and know your emo partner is just acting out of pain when they seem to be hating. Again, be there to help each other and try not to react to each other's pain. Try to work things out and grow together. It is a chance to heal the deepest part of you.

But if you break up or your emo partner does something foul to you, don’t get bitter. I know there is quite a lot of misogynistic music and songs about romantic bitterness in emo. Find songs that allow you to surrender to the sorrow and explore your hurt, and stay away from songs tell you that you are a victim or should be bitter.  That is addictive fake strength and you deserve better. Emo, at its best, is supposed to be about emotions and feeling them to grow. Even in loss, it is just as great of an opportunity to grow, heal, and find self love. By the way, this applies for non-emo people as well. It’s just that with emos can be and tend to be more emotional on average. No matter what happens, I wish you well as you move forward.

If you're interested in meeting some emo singles or just make some emo friends, check out the emo dating sites section.